I am not writing this blog post with the intent to change anyone’s mind about co-sleeping. I am writing to inform parents that are trying to figure it out what is best for their families.
When Declan was just a few weeks old he was still sleeping in our bedroom. We had him in the rock and play right next to me.
During the night I would wake up, get him and go to the nursery and feed him there. However, one night I was exhausted and without much thought, I decided to try to breastfeed him in bed and see how it went.
As I was breastfeeding I kind of fell asleep for literally a couple of seconds. THAT SCARED ME TO DEATH. I was so scared that I was going to fall asleep again and drop my baby that I never did that again.
I know that the comfort of my bed will make me want to sleep and I know that for me co-sleeping is dangerous because I move a lot.
Here are some of the reasons I decided that co-sleeping is NOT for me:
And I would like to suggest for you to take much consideration in each reason
Like I said before I move a lot and a huge fear I have is to turn and sleep on top of my baby. Mom, you might be thinking that it is not you because you are a light sleeper, but let me tell you-you are going to be very tired that even the lightest sleeper will become a heavier sleeper.
Not only you have to worry about yourself, but also your husband, pillows, and blankets in your bed can be dangerous to your baby.
Babies make lots of noises
Believe it or not, babies make lots of noises. When they are repositioning themselves or even just breathing they make noises.
Therefore, having your baby in bed (bedroom) with you will make even harder for you (tired mom) to get a good night of sleep.
For the longest time, I woke up to feed Declan because I thought the noises he was making was because he was hungry and came to find out that he wasn’t even awake.
Quality time or intimacy with your spouse will be affected after having a baby. Both of you are going to be extra tired and you still have to take care of another human being all day long. However, co-sleeping will definitely decrease those times.
Like I said before babies make a lot of noises, so imagine trying to be intimate or have some quality time with your hubby and all of a sudden your baby starts to make noises.
Bad sleeping habits
By now you should be aware that I am all about good sleeping habits. Co-sleeping will create sleeping habits that will most likely carry on as the baby gets older.
A friend of mine shared with me that she had her son well sleep trained. However, due to her son getting sick she started to co-sleep. Years have gone by since this has happened and her son still need her in bed with him so that he can fall asleep.
Your bad sleeping habits
Mom, your baby can smell you from afar. If you get up because you need to go to the bathroom what could be a 2 minutes deal can turn into a 45 min feeding time.
It always comes down to what the parents want and what they feel it is better for them. I will provide you with my opinion. However, whatever you chose if it is in the best interest of the child I believe it is valid.
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