As a mom, it is so easy to feel the mom guilt. No matter what I do I feel guilty, and I feel like I am not doing enough. Declan was only a couple of days old when the mom guilt decided to visit me, and she comes back way more often than I would like to admit. It is a feeling of inadequacy.
However, as we approach mothers day, I have been reflecting on what it means to be a mom. I don’t spend my days thinking about all that my mom did wrong when raising me, so I figured my children wouldn’t do it either. Therefore, I have chosen to throw away mommy guilt and embrace my imperfections. Please, don’t take me wrong I am not going to sit around and think that there is no room for growth, there is always room for growth. On the contrary, by embracing my imperfections, I will work extra hard to become the mom that God created me to be.
Whenever we chose to hide our mistakes, pretend we are flawless, and that we are living a perfect life we rob God of His glory. By embracing my imperfection, I want to give much room for people to see God’s unfailing love and consistent work in my life. I want them, and by them I mean my children to know that we are allowed to make mistakes and go back to the cross because in the cross we find redemption. I also want to let my kids be imperfect and give them the grace that the Father gives me.
As I reflect on mothers day, I have been thinking about what I want to be remembered by my children. I want them to remember me by tirelessly teaching them the Word of God. I want to be someone who walks, talks and live the Word. The Bible commands us to remember those who have taught us the Word. My hope and prayer are that this will be my legacy.
Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith. Hebrews 13:7
But how can living a life guilty free will take me to the place I want to be? In Christ we find freedom. When I allow guilt to clothe me, I am living a life far from what Christ has promised me. He wants me to find forgiveness and give forgiveness.
So on this mother’s day, I want to encourage you to throw away the mommy guilt and embrace your imperfections. Lets together create a world that is transparent. Let’s allow others to make mistakes, but encourage them to move towards the right direction.
God created us in His image. He created men and women in different and unique ways to reflects who He is and how He is. But we (women) are the only being given the privilege by God able to give birth to eternal souls. God gave us a high calling. He gave us a vital task which is to raise children who hopefully one day will stand before the almighty God unashamed and washed by the blood of Jesus.
I hope that this post will bring encouragement to you. God created you, so YOU ARE worth it.
You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you. Song of Solomon 4:7